The challenges of being a good parent were very well known to Gurudev. When asked for advice he tailored it to the situation and needs of the concerned person. In the letter below Gurudev counsels a parent who has to handle a difficult child.

Very positive instructions were given to a mother-to-be.

Lakshmi Reddy 1.10.1965

You remain quiet spending your time in prayers. Be cheerful. Even though the peculiar changes within may give you many emotional and physical convulsions, with your understanding and love for the little one conquer all such feelings and keep a cheerful face. Fill your heart with cheer and joy. Remember the mother’s mental attitude gets imparted to the child within. Start his pre-natal education right now. Let him be the Great One the world is waiting for. Let him be a brilliant boy exploding to become a youth of dynamic activities serving the country and the cause of world progress.

Signed
Swami Chinmayananda

Pujya Gurudev points out that our attitude makes all the difference - it can lend divinity to our actions.

Lakshmi Reddy 15.2.1967

The divine service is always open to all of us. Your sewa of the child and husband are also not anything less divine. Look after them well – and give the son a healthy, happy, and disciplined atmosphere to grow.

Signed
Swami Chinmayananda

Gurudev tells a parent to leave the married children well alone.

Indu Wakhlu 8.2.1993

Congratulations all around. May the couple learn to live in love and mutual harmony. May the parents realise that children grow and must have their own independent fields to grow up. Leave them alone.

Love
Swami Chinmayananda

Here is Gurudev's advice to a mother who wants her daughter to get married. Such advice was tailored according to the person.

Sarojamma Ramaswamy Sep-Oct 1961

It is glorious of you to have sent your daughter for Medicine. Let her study it. She wants to study and serve. Why force her to marry? And if later on she wants it, let her do so as she meets the right boy in her life.

Signed
Swami Chinmayananda

Gurudev cites River Ganga as the best example of a glorious mother.

Neeru Mehta 2.4.1973

The mother goes by singing Her unbroken song of joy and cheer, gushing out in love to serve the world on both sides of Her, along Her own chosen path. No obstruction can stop her – and nothing can disturb her joy and verve. She is She ever – go wherever you like. This is culture. This is depth in character. Be ever like Ma Ganga ji.

Signed
Swami Chinmayananda

There is no greater heaven on earth.

Hamsa Selvi 31.8.1968

And to have a reading session at home – where father reads and all children listen and discuss – I assure you there is no greater heaven upon earth. And you don’t realize the influence you are leaving upon your children. Nothing impresses them in their deeper depths as that which happened to them through their own father and mother.

Signed
Swami Chinmayananda

Gurudev counsels a parent who has to handle a difficult child.

Lakshmi Reddy 1.10.1965

Very positive instructions were given to a mother-to-be.

You remain quiet spending your time in prayers. Be cheerful. Even though the peculiar changes within may give you many emotional and physical convulsions, with your understanding and love for the little one conquer all such feelings and keep a cheerful face. Fill your heart with cheer and joy. Remember the mother’s mental attitude gets imparted to the child within. Start his pre-natal education right now. Let him be the Great One the world is waiting for. Let him be a brilliant boy exploding to become a youth of dynamic activities serving the country and the cause of world progress.

Signed
Swami Chinmayananda

Pujya Gurudev points out that our attitude makes all the difference - it can lend divinity to our actions.

The divine service is always open to all of us. Your sewa of the child and husband are also not anything less divine. Look after them well – and give the son a healthy, happy, and disciplined atmosphere to grow.

Signed
Swami Chinmayananda

Lakshmi Reddy 15.2.1967
Indu Wakhlu 8.2.1993

Gurudev tells a parent to leave the married children well alone.

Congratulations all around. May the couple learn to live in love and mutual harmony. May the parents realise that children grow and must have their own independent fields to grow up. Leave them alone.

Love
Swami Chinmayananda

Here is Gurudev's advice to a mother who wants her daughter to get married. Such advice was tailored according to the person.

It is glorious of you to have sent your daughter for Medicine. Let her study it. She wants to study and serve. Why force her to marry? And if later on she wants it, let her do so as she meets the right boy in her life.

Signed
Swami Chinmayananda

Sarojamma Ramaswamy Sep-Oct 1961
Neeru Mehta 2.4.1973

Gurudev cites River Ganga as the best example of a glorious mother.

The mother goes by singing Her unbroken song of joy and cheer, gushing out in love to serve the world on both sides of Her, along Her own chosen path. No obstruction can stop her – and nothing can disturb her joy and verve. She is She ever – go wherever you like. This is culture. This is depth in character. Be ever like Ma Ganga ji.

Signed
Swami Chinmayananda

There is no greater heaven on earth.

And to have a reading session at home – where father reads and all children listen and discuss – I assure you there is no greater heaven upon earth. And you don’t realize the influence you are leaving upon your children. Nothing impresses them in their deeper depths as that which happened to them through their own father and mother.

Signed
Swami Chinmayananda

Hamsa Selvi 31.8.1968

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